Dare to be different.

Humpback whales are one of the biggest mammals on the planet. Each fall, they embark on a migration that spans over 6,000 kilometres, from the icy waters of Alaska to the coast of Hawaii, which will go on to be their home for the winter. What factor drives them to take on a challenge that requires them to spend nearly six to eight weeks of continuous swimming? Having a pack mentality could be one of the reasons- since familiarity breeds confidence. However, if only a handful of whales were making the journey, the outcome would not have been the same.

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Being a part of a crowd kindles an innate sense of comfort. When we stick to the norms that have been outlined for us, we follow that path despite the monotone. While psychological studies show that arachnophobia, aviophobia, ophidiophobia and acrophobia rank as the fears affecting most people worldwide, one fear that is largely ignored and overlooked is the fear of being different.

Which brings me to my first question. Why is it difficult to be different?
Being different requires courage and a strong sense of individuality. Being different puts you up on a pedestal where everybody receives the license to critique you and judge you- and that’s where people fail to take the first step. To sum it all up, we’ve been made to believe that being different almost always results in receiving criticism.
This reminds me of an interesting experiment that was carried out by a group of scientists. They placed a ladder in the middle of a cage full of monkeys and strategically placed a bunch of bananas at the top of the ladder. Each time a monkey would make an attempt to climb the ladder, the scientists would douse the other monkeys with a stream of cold water. This went on, until the monkeys were conditioned to believe that each time one of them made an attempt to reach the bananas, the others would be in for trouble. After a while, each time one tried to go up the ladder, the monkeys teamed up and tried to bring the monkey making an attempt down to the ground. It was observed that none of them dared to go up the ladder, despite the temptation.
The lesson here is- each time you dare to be different, there is a subconscious fear that those around you will not react well to it and will try to make you change your course of action to suit their liking.
A few other reasons could be wanting to fit in, being afraid to step out of one’s comfort zone, to demonstrate compliance and to avoid taking responsibility. When we work like everyone else around us, we lose the sense of accountability for our own actions. We begin to justify our actions by simply stating that we’re doing what everyone else is. “It doesn’t really matter if I made a mistake- everyone else did as well!”
That’s the point where we begin to lose our individuality and a sense of control over our own lives.
Being different doesn’t always have to be on a massive scale- you could start out small and slowly grow. In the simplest possible terms, being different means heeding to your calling.
 Following a pre-defined path isn’t always the best option. The best musicians, authors and actors all have a common goal- excelling at their craft. However, they all have different ways to get there, and that’s what sets them apart. A huge advantage of daring to be different is that it gives you a sense of individuality and the  opportunity to establish your identity in a world full of people who are aping others.
Being just like everyone kills imagination and creativity.
Dare to be different- dare to be the best version of yourself.
Have a great weekend!
-Dhruv
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Ways to work well under pressure.

Hi everyone! This week’s post is another how-to post and I have some tips on how you could work well in a stressful situation, that demands you to give in all that you have and perform to the best of your abilities. I’ve been working on similar posts lately, since I figured that sharing tips from my experiences would be beneficial- and I’m sure that such posts give me an opportunity to hear from you and learn more about the coping mechanism that you put into practise in a similar situation.

Happy reading! 🙂

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Working well under pressure is not easy. We’ve all been in situations where we need to put in everything we have to meet deadlines and achieve targets- and such situations are often demanding and culminate in a lot of pressure. Sometimes, it becomes too much to handle, but it all comes down to the extent to which you are capable of bearing it and how you perform when the circumstances are not in your favour.

Being stressed out in the face of such a situation is often detrimental and it could hamper your growth, so here are a few ways (read: secrets 🙂 ) that you could apply while working under pressure.

Ways to perform well under pressure:

(1) Learn to divert your focus to the task at hand and not the final outcome: We often predict the outcomes of situations in our heads before actually treading the waters and actively working towards the intended goal. It’s vital to dedicate yourself to your commitment and avoid over-thinking about the result or final-outcome. Your result will solely be dependant on your efforts- and worrying about the results before you put in the required effort could hamper productivity.   Having faith in your abilities is necessary. It’s important to stop obsessing over the future and to focus on the present.

(2) Ask yourself: ‘Is this really important?’: You could have a bunch of things that you could be doing- but it’s necessary to pick out the one that requires your attention the most. Very often, we hit the panic button very quickly while we’re under pressure and the normal instinct is to do as much as you can- even if it means a little bit of everything. To avoid this chaos in a situation where you cannot afford to lose time doing less important things, learn to prioritise and categorise things based on their importance and their contribution to your success.

(We also have an innate tendency to over-do the things we’re already good at, because they give us a sense of fleeting satisfaction and take our minds off the things we need to work on. Ensure that you divide your time equally between both.)

(3) Make your task feel like a fun challenge: The moment you start looking at your task as a threat and more like a challenge is when you’ve unlocked a doorway to your success. It’s important to relax and devise a step-wise plan to get to where your going. The more you perceive it as a threatening and overwhelming situation, the more you’ll an impetus to the lack of confidence, the fear of failure and failing judgement. Don’t let your mind be overwhelmed by a situation.

(4) Create a pre-performance ritual to calm your frayed nerves:  Most often, the anxiety that comes on minutes before you try your hand at something is the worst and most extreme form of fear, in my opinion. How you deal with it influences your performance- so make sure your pre-performance ritual is as strong as your preparation is.

A vocal-warmup is necessary for a singer, in order to hit all the right notes. Similarly, make sure you do the following right before it’s showtime.

-Allow yourself a few moments to re-capituate everything that you have learnt and all the key ideals that have been involved in your preparation.

-Visualize yourself acing the task you’re about to take on. Cultivating the mentality of a winner and successful person sure helps you become one eventually.

-You could try out a few breathing exercises, watch a funny compilation of dogs doing tricks, or give yourself a pep-talk: basically whatever makes you happy and puts you in a positive frame of mind.

All these are things you could do towards the very end of your journey, when performance anxiety is at its peak.

Avoid being around negative people- that’s important too.

There you go- that’s 4 ways to deal with pressure and ace your challenges!

Remember that pressure is necessary too and it is an integral component of your journey. The finest diamonds wouldn’t be made if it wasn’t for the pressure the ground exerted on them! 🙂

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4 Ways To Avoid Mediocrity.

The word ‘average’ draws its origin from the French word ‘avarie,’ which quite literally means damage. It was used to denote damage to a ship or cargo that was being transported across seas from one place to another. It went on to indicate the financial losses made due to goods being lost or damaged at sea- which is exactly what being average entails.

The way our brains are designed is that we see hundreds of new faces everyday, we make our way through scores of situations, we hear a million things and say far too many too, but we only remember a handful of them a week or so later. It’s usually a weird mix of the best and the worst ones which go on to stay with us over long periods of time. What was your favourite thing to on a hot summer day growing up? What’s the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you in public? These are examples of questions we readily have answers to, because they’re a clear indication of the best and worst aspects of our memory. However, all the things that lie between the best and the worst ones are often forgotten and ignored. The key to being remembered is stepping your game up and daring to rise above being average or mediocre.

How does one stop being average?

Here are a few key lifestyle-changes that could transform the way you think and work:

(1) Surround yourself with the people who bring out the best in you: We imbibe traits and qualities from the people we spend the most time with, consciously or subconsciously. You can’t be exactly like each person you hang around, but over time, you become an average of all their qualities (see what I did there?) If you choose to spend most of your time with people who’d rather put off their goals to another day and choose to procrastinate, you will find yourself encountering more pitfalls along the way. A study shows that you’re the average of the five people you hang out with the most. Surround yourself with those who encourage you to hustle harder, manage time well, and encourage you to dive to the depths of your multi-layered persona and pick out the choicest of qualities that you’d require on your way to getting to where you want to be. The spirit of perseverance is like a deadly virus- it’s highly contagious. The more you see the people around you work harder, the more you’ll be motivated and driven to accomplish. 

(2) Get used to being uncomfortable: Why do you make resolutions at the beginning of each year? Why do you make promises to yourself? What we’re ultimately seeking is happiness. We derive happiness from our accomplishments- but we often forget to identify the difference between pleasure and happiness. Being in your comfort zone and taking each day at a time might give you pleasure, but the ultimate goal should be doing things that you wouldn’t usually do and being rewarded with the gains. For instance, two friends decided that getting fit would be on the top of their lists of resolutions for the year. Each Sunday morning, one of them would get up at the crack of dawn and go the extra mile to ensure that he would stick to the promise he made to himself. The other would wake up at noon, binge on unhealthy food and spend his day watching movies, promising to begin his workout regime the following week. At the end of the year, when they met to compare the results, one of them had improved the quality of life drastically- while the other had failed to keep his promise. One of them had gained the access to a healthy future, while the other had gained a few kilos and a bunch of movies to tick off his watch-list. Both of them had gained something- two things so different. Only one of them could manage sticking to his initial goal. You be the judge. 🙂

What’s often pleasurable and easy doesn’t guarantee long-term happiness.

Breaking past the barrier of being average necessarily means doing things that others wouldn’t usually do. It’s easier to sleep in on a Sunday, than sweat it out at the gym. However, the initial discomfort is compensated by the rewards and results achieved at the end of the process.

Quoting Anne Frank, “Laziness may appear attractive, but work gives satisfaction.”

(3) Understand the value of time and the importance of review: We often fail without even beginning the task at hand, simply because of the belief that we have loads of time. Restrain and retrain- is the key technique. Restrain yourself from wasting too much time and procrastinating and retrain your brain each time you feel yourself going off-track with your goals. If you have an assignment due in two weeks, start working on it today. That way, you’ll have enough time to assess and evaluate your work, and improve the quality of your work. The best scenes in movies often require multiple takes and the best books are often published after scrapping half a dozen average manuscripts. Utilise your time wisely and review your work well. It’s important to develop a keen understanding for the sense of urgency and knowing when it’s time to get down to working.

(4) Never stop learning: The process of learning never stops. The most successful people in the world would always include reading as a key-trait of their personalities. You can never get to a point where there’s nothing left for you to discover or learn. An average person would copy an article being used as a research resource for a school project word for word, while a person who has a desire to stand out would rather do some additional research. When you stop learning, you restrict your growth. How many books do your read in a year? How many times have you wanted to know more about something than you were required to? Ask yourself these questions and you will realise just how important learning is, as an ingredient for success.

 

Most people are fiercely intimidated by the fear of being average. However, instead of plainly brooding over the uncertainty being average brings into your life and your future, it is important to help this serve as a launchpad, which could catapult you towards your ultimate destination. Handling it positively is as important as acting on it.

 

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Why do we hate the idea of failure?

‘I absolutely hate this.’

How many times have you said this out loud? Perhaps more times than you’d like to admit.

Hatred is a primitive impulse, innate to us all. At different points in our lives, we develop a strong sense of repulsion and discernment towards certain people, objects, and behavioural patterns, to name a few.

We develop a sense of hatred for something, when we allow it to influences our lives in a huge way, and allow it to take up a fraction, more appropriately: a sizeable amount of space, in our minds. Developing a sense of hatred towards something wipes out any form of sensitivity or rationality we might have towards it.

Today’s topic of discussion is a tad bit offbeat. Why do we hate to fail? While we readily accept victory and would always like to continue to succeed in all that we do, failure is inevitable at one point or another.

Which brings me to my first question- What is it about failure that makes us hate it just so much?

Varying amounts of doubt and fear for the ventures we undertake is alright, if it falls within the permissible limit. However, when the dial turns dangerously to the other side, it takes on an extreme form of fear.

Fun fact: The fear of failure is called ‘atychiphobia.’

Failure is commonly construed to be associated with a lot of negativity. On one hand, success is associated with an impetus to grow and get better at something, while on the other, failure is mistaken to be a deterrent, that often becomes a signal to drop everything and move on. 

Here’s something about failures that everyone should know- everyone has slightly different definitions of it. Something that signifies failure for you may not have the same meaning for someone else. What is it that binds us all and makes us react similarly to it, though? Let’s take a look at that.

–Failure is an unpleasant emotion, which makes one doubt his/her own capabilities. That’s one side of the picture.

–Panning to the other frame, it is a common notion that failing at something impacts the way others perceive you. This traumatic situation that creeps in post-failure. You begin to feel victimised by those around you.

Not only do we begin to worry about how we perceive ourselves, but we’re also terrified of the prospect of being judged and scrutinised by those around us.

–> 4 Ways to combat the fear of failure:

1] Realising that there are two ways to deal with the emotion-  You either find yourself spiralling down into shame, or you feel guilty. Which one is the better option?

The latter is, for a very basic reason- when you feel an emotion like guilt, you introspect and narrow down to a certain reason that resulted in your failure. The only way you can crawl out of guilt is by working on your fallacies- and that ensures success. Identifying and working on improving the root cause of your failure is an added benefit of guilt.

Why is feeling ashamed not a good idea?

If you allow yourself to wallow in self-pity and shame for too long, you will be successful at only one thing- along with others, you will feel bad for yourself. It puts you in a position where you become a by-stander and a silent spectator, as watching your life crumble before your eyes, instead of taking control of the reigns once again.

Release and let go of the need of needing validation from others for your decisions and their outcomes. Failure is often a direct hit to one’s self-esteem, since this comes from a place of a deep-rooted fear of being judged.

2] Learn to embrace that failure is a part of  your journey: A huge part of this fear is tackled when you learn to accept that failure occurs at one point or another. Take a look at all those around you and you will notice that no matter where they are in life, they’ve got there after enjoying a series of victories, but also an equal promotion of failure. 

3] Identify the root cause of failure and make an action plan: Let me place a hypothetical situation before you. You’ve flunked a test at school  and the hatred and fear of facing this predicament is eating you on the inside. A clever approach to avoid a similar situation in the future would be making changes to your schedule to incorporate more time for that certain subject. Maybe you failed because you couldn’t grasp certain concepts, maybe you couldn’t dedicate enough time to a specific chapter, maybe you zoned out while writing the test- there are so many different things that all lead to the same conclusion. Identify exactly what held you back from acing the test and draft a suitable plan of action to combat it.

4] Avoid generalising the idea of failure: If you fail at a certain thing, desist from expecting yourself to fail in everything that’s similar to that. Don’t let a single failure impact the way you look at yourself. We often rush to make predictions for our future based on the actions of our present- cultivate the mentality of a winner despite all your failed attempts. A single event, good or bad, does not have the power to define you. You are much more than what a single loss tries to make you believe.

That’s all for this week’s message. I hope you have a few take-aways that will positively influence you, long after you click away from this post. I hope they change your perception of failure, even if it means the littlest possible change.

Looking forward to hearing from you! As always, don’t forget to like, share and comment! 🙂

 

17 Things 2017 Taught Me.

Time just keeps passing by quicker and quicker each year, doesn’t it?

At the end of every year, a voice inside my head forces me to believe that the year that elapsed was a combination between the best and worst year so far- for a host of reasons. As we near the end of 2017, I’m looking back at the year we’re leaving behind, trying to hold on to all the bitter-sweet memories.

Choosing to take just a few memories along with me into the next year is hard. It’s like picking up a fistful of sand, and watching it trickle through the gaps in my fingers. And with each passing year, it gets harder to pick a few highlights.

2017 was an eventful year for me- I *finally* got done with tenth grade, I had amazing adventures, I met some of the most wonderful people, and fostered friendships, that I hope will go on to last a lifetime. 2017 was also a year of realisation, decision making and putting plans into action. The beauty of this year lies in the fact that although this year meant different things to different people, there are a few common lessons that we can all have as a take-away.

As a brief rundown of the year, here are 17 things that 2017 taught me.

1) Learning to let go: To grow stronger, you have to learn to let go. If you continue to look back at all the little things that went wrong, you will never get to the things that went right, and they’ll go unappreciated.  Let go of the past, all the ghosts that haunt you, and the bad memories you keep so close to your heart. Make room for happiness and positivity.

2) Coping with stress and the fear of failure: Success reaffirms our faith in our abilities, and urges us to try our hand at bigger and better things. On the opposite end of the spectrum, failure creates intense fear. This year began with the advent of exams- which, obviously, is a stressful time. Stress hampers productivity. The first step to success lies in translating stress into something fruitful and productive. Trying to channelise your fears into a positive direction is helpful. 🙂

3) Investing time in doing what you love: We’re all good at something- you may not have tapped into the source of your creativity, but you could be the next great musician, author or artist. 2017 marked a year of creative exploration for me. I dedicated more time to writing and my blog, and I have mapped my journey from the beginning to the end, and the results are wonderful. We’re all battling deadlines and rushing to finish assignments, but we often lose the essence of our creativity in this process. Dedicate a stipulated amount of time every week to doing what you love- it’s easier than you think it is.

4) Prioritising yourself: Working on yourself and your mental health and well-being is important. Reach out to the ignored person inside you, and reconstruct yourself. It’s okay not to feel your best sometimes, but it’s also essential to point to the source of this feeling and rectify it. Invest in yourself and your future, and do the things that will make you smile today, and make you fondly look back at them a few years later.

5) Learning to do things without needing validation: We often seek appreciation and validation from others for all that we do. Pose a question to yourself. Is this really necessary? After some deliberation, you will have your answer. For every picture that you share, for every statement that you make- you’re subconsciously seeking validation. However, if you don’t get that sometimes, it’s important to know that you’re still just as deserving and wonderful. Often, the lack of public validation is detrimental to our goals. ‘What if people don’t like this?’ It’s time to move on.Learn to avoid using public opinion as a yardstick for your self-worth.

6) Getting through difficult days: I’ve practised something for a  while now, wherein I gauge my ‘Happiness Quotient.’ At the end of each day, I rate my happiness on a scale of 1 to 10, in my head. Some days are a solid 10, while some are a bare minimum. The skill that got behind being a more powerful individual lies in setting those 3’s right. Remember that difficult times don’t last forever, and for every thunderstorm you make your way through, a rainbow awaits you at the other end.

7) Appreciating little things in life: We often overlook the little things that make up a major chunk of our lives. Okay, if I’m not convincing enough, Winnie the Pooh agrees too! 🙂 A small act of kindness, or a good gesture can set a bad day right, and is impactful in imaginable ways. Learn to hold on to these little memories, and document them, no matter how silly they might seem.

8) You’re known by how you treat people: The true reflection of someone’s character is how they treat people. It’s often hard to help someone who will go on to have virtually no contribution in your life. Learn to help people without looking for benefits, an you will realise how much more revered you will go on to be. Remember- people base their opinions of you off of how you treat those around you. 

9) No dream is too big: We often give up even before trying, because a certain goal or dream seems too unachievable, to begin with. Breaking through that mental barrier is half the battle won. In order to grow, we must stop limiting ourselves when it comes to the purview of achievement. Dream Big, formulate your goals, ideate and put your thoughts into actions- and you will begin to see results.

10) Accepting that nothing lasts forever: This is valid for both, our highs and our lows. Life is ever-changing, which means that people come and go, and things change. Ideal situations don’t last forever, and low-points in our life will ultimately culminate in something good. It’s funny how we talk about the concept of destiny- how everything is planned out, but we don’t know where the next moment will go on to take us. Accepting that things are temporary helps in the healing process. We often map stuff out in our heads, and when things don’t go as planned, it hurts. To minimise this, it’s vital to realise that nothing last forever.

11) Taking risks and making decisions whose outcome is unknown:  Often, it is necessary to step out of our comfort zones and make decisions that might not have a certain outcome. The best experiences in life are by-products of the decisions we make outside our comfort zones. If an opportunity presents itself before you, seize it before it’s too late.

12) Being happy: We are all looking for happiness, but perhaps in the wrong places. However, we overlook the fact that Happiness is essentially a commitment and an option. It’s a daily thing. You have to plan your own happiness, and you are the ultimate creator of your happiness, just like all the other emotions in your life.

13)Detoxifying: It’s necessary to take a detox sometimes. Whether it means distancing yourself from technology and cultivating a hobby, or distancing yourself from negativity, a detox is your best bet. Often, getting away from things that could hinder our growth is a good option.

14)Don’t take any grudges along, into the next year: Forgiving and forgetting fractures in relations should be a significant activity towards the end of the year. Although this is essentially a process that should start several months before the year ends, try to resolve any grudges that have not been addressed through the course of the year. It’s for the greater good. 🙂

15)Surrounding yourself with the right people: Surrounding yourself with like-minded people puts you in a place of freedom and liberation. Surround yourself with the people around whom you’re unapologetic about being yourself.

16)Count your blessings: Don’t forget to be thankful for all that you have. We’re all fortunate to be in the positions we are today. We often pine for the things we can’t have, and ignore all the things we do. Gratitude is vital. You’re alive, healthy and you’re surrounded by love and warmth. What more could you ask for? If we were asked to make wish lists, they’d probably never end. What if we were asked to list out all the things we were genuinely thankful for? How long would that be? Take a minute to ponder. 🙂

17)Don’t be afraid of change:  Truly, change is the only constant. We live in a world of ever-changing realities. This year, I learned not to be afraid of change, along with getting over the fear of changing. When I look back at old poetry and stories, I realise just how much I’ve changed, and that letting go of the fear of change has made me who I am. Change is beautiful. 🙂

Here’s wishing all my readers a Happy New Year! I hope this post helped you recount all the things that this year has taught us. I wish you a year full of happiness, and an abundance of good health and positivity.

All my love,

-Dhruv.

Learning to let go of the ‘baggage’ we carry.

Hey guys! I hope you all had a wonderful week! Another week has elapsed, bringing us closer to the next year- and as we strike off the days on our calendars, and waiting to see what the new year has to offer, there are a few messages and key-learnings we need to end the year with.

My focus this month has been encapsulating all the lessons I’ve learnt over the last year, into blog posts. I do this with the motive of reaching out to as many people as I can, through my own experiences, instead of just plain, boring sermons. My message for this week is- Learn to let go of the baggage you have been carrying with you. Read on, to know exactly what I mean.

This concept of not letting go of the ‘baggage’ we carry has been at the back of my mind for a while. What this means, is that we often let our experiences from our past influence the way we react to situations that go on to crop up in the future.

One bad friendship, one failed attempt at something, or one rejection sends us running off to seek cover. We carry memories from our past, and even when we move on to better things and new places, we carry our broken pieces with us. They’re tucked away, somewhere deep inside, but just like shards of glass, they hurt every time we come in contact with them.

This comes from a place of deep, personal understanding and experience. We often judge people and categorise them into ‘types,’ based on our experiences with people we consider to be similar. We learn to become afraid of getting hurt, we dread betrayal, and above all, we begin to lose the ability to trust. However, is it justified to let one bad experience take away from us a new friendship, or a person we could go on to trust unconditionally?

Let me allow you to place yourself in my shoes, and look at this through my perspective. You have just arrived from a trip to one of the coldest places in the world; and before departing, you had made sure, that you were carrying the warmest possible clothes. However, will you carry the same luggage before embarking on a trip to a desert? Doesn’t make a lot of sense, right? 🙂

As we slowly  let go of 2017 and promise ourselves a better, more fruitful 2018; we also promise ourselves New Beginnings. Let’s leave behind all the baggage we don’t require, and step into the next year with a better, optimistic and more upbeat attitude.

I’d love to hear from you, and know your closing remarks for the year. What are your goals for the next few weeks? Sound off in the comments, and I’ll make sure to reply to all of them. Until next time!

-Dhruv.

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Appreciating the beauty in the uncertainty of our lives.

As a generation that largely depends on social media as a source of validation for our actions, the way we use this medium to voice our opinions and express ourselves is becoming increasingly important.

While scrolling through my Instagram feed a few days ago, I couldn’t help but think how each picture holds a special relevance in my heart, and captures a moment that lives on to be a memory till today, instead of just fading with time and being tucked away in hindsight.

Each picture takes me back to a certain place, a certain time, and helps me relive a certain experience. Which, if you come to think of it, is wonderful. Six months ago, I wouldn’t have even the slightest idea of the pictures that I have posted since then- which urged me to think of it this way- beauty does lie in the uncertain. We’re all eager to put out our brightest smiles, and fondest memories out into the world- often forgetting that the uncertainty of these experiences is what makes them even more special.

Imagine having access to every picture you’ll click in your lifetime.

Imagine logging into your account, and chancing upon pictures that you will go on to have, ten years into the future. Imagine knowing the name of every friend you’ll ever make, knowing the dates to all the special occasions in your life- Imagine having your entire life mapped out in front of you, highlighting every checkpoint. It does hamper the excitement to have those experiences firsthand, doesn’t it?

We live life one day at a time- at least most of us do. It’s funny to see how strangers suddenly become best friends, and dreams conjured up in our dreamy heads one lazy afternoon translate into reality, sooner or later.

Imagine being told about every high in your life, or knowing the intricacies of every beautiful experience you will go on to have. You will be left with close to no excitement when the time for them rolls in.

Which leads me to my message for the week- leave some room for uncertainty in your life. Instead of fretting over having each moment meticulously planned out, allow yourself to be surprised by what the universe has, to offer. Let the tides of time guide you to a island that encases a bounty of everything you’ll ever need, instead of figuring out where the ‘X’ mark that denotes the so-called ‘treasure’ is- and putting yourself in a far more difficult situation.

Over the last few months, my life has taken several turns that I had never planned out in my head, and I’ve met people who had been existing on the same planet as me for the last several years- but destiny chose the perfect point in time to put us through similar situations.

It is an innate quality to want to know what the next moment holds. As humans, we can look back at our pasts and curse our bad fortunes for all our mistakes and blocks in the road- but we also have the ever-ignited torch of hope for a better future that burns deep inside us- no matter what the situation is. Keep that hope alive, by trusting the uncertain to map out your life in its due course. 🙂

I know that we all will go on to have wonderful adventures, be moulded by life and its lessons, and go on to meet people who occupy a place of significance in our lives. We will have nights we never want to end, heartaches, crazy friendships and wonderful pictures that will give us bragging rights. 🙂

Learn to appreciate the beauty that uncertainty brings along with it. It will certainly teach you to cherish each experience and opportunity you are given!

As we enter the last lap of this year, I’d love to know how all the experiences that you have had this year, but never thought you’d ever have, have impacted your life. I’m sure all of us have some amazing stories to share! 🙂

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I hope you have a wonderful week, and remember to marvel at even the littlest of things that happen this week. It’s those little things that are not etched in photographs forever, but go on to make us smile in the darkest of hours.

And before you leave, it would be awesome to hear your views and suggestions for this week’s post!

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-Dhruv.